I received this beautiful response to my recent post about Mothers Day and “rules”. It reminded me that my whole motivation for writing this blog is to open the door for real, authentic discussion about the feelings, struggles and insecurities that ALL of us face, and to share tips and experiences that help us gently shift to a place of learning, growth and gratitude through all of our experiences – not just the fun and light ones. And, to honor the multidimensional nature of being a real live person. Allowing yourself to be present with your uncomfortable emotions does not define you. Some days you’re up, some days you’re down, you have to own it either way. I consider myself a happy person, even though I don’t feel happy emotions 100% of the time. And that’s my definition of being whole and complete. Thanks for the love, Sarah!———–What a great blog Michelle, I totally get what you are saying – on so many levels!Being in a ‘failing relationship’ can feel like you are losing something that used to support, nurture and thrill you. For me, I held on as long as possible hoping that it would change but then I realised I was the one who had changed and actually was no longer prepared to settle for what was left. There are plenty of times I slip back into trying to keep ‘control’ of my life and how I think it should be and I guess these are my version of The Rules. When I allow myself to be me though I am unstoppable – shame I don’t always remember it!The day before Mother’s day I got caught out – I woke up at 5am overwhelmed by a sense of failure – single motherhood was feeling like I was always on duty, so where was the fun in that? This wasn’t what I had signed up for when I became a Mum. Missing my own Mum too – and her wisdom. In hindsight it made the actual day easier as I had begun to deal with my super-criticalness, started to be my ‘friend’ again.With the ‘Firsts’ I know they are coming – it allows me to take care of myself, plan a treat, talk over how I am feeling with a friend, but the milestones keep on coming and a long term solution is needed – distraction therapy is not enough! Your blog has been a real encouragement and I wanted to pass that on.I am sure I will still ‘wobble’ on my journey but to realize that I have a journey of discovery is awesome!love Sarah x
Michelle Leath
