Do you value your relationships?
As a woman, I’ll bet you do. It’s kind of in our nature to place high priority on creating and maintaining healthy relationships, particularly with a long-term partner.
And what qualities do you look for in a long-term relationship?
· Fear?
· Control?
· Deal-making?
· Promise-breaking?
· Distrust?
· Punishment?
· Guilt?
· Shame?
· Judgement?
Probably not! That wouldn’t make for a very nourishing relationship at all. In fact it would probably be one you would jettison pretty quickly!
So why do so many women (maybe even you) tolerate a relationship with food like this that ranges from toxic to downright abusive? And why do we inflict so much of this on ourselves?
If this lands for you I want you to know that it’s not your fault (and it’s not the food’s fault either).
The problem I see is that you have been force-fed so many Big Fat Lies by the $70-billion nutrition industry, and have repeatedly given your power away to a veritable plethora of nutritional “experts”, that you have lost touch with what truly works or would truly be nourishing for YOU. You’ve lost your permission to eat and live FREE.
Maybe you’ve never really thought of food as something you are in relationship with. (Maybe you think you just have a willpower problem, or just need to find and stick to the perfect way of eating and all will be well). But I assure you that if food is something you depend on, interact with, or dialogue with – you guys are an item.
In fact, here’s some food for thought: Your relationship with food and your body is a lifelong partnership, in fact it’s the longest term relationship you’ll ever have.
Seriously, ’til death do you part.
And I’ll tell you what – there’s a saying “How you do one thing is how you do everything,” meaning that if your relationship with food is jacked up, it’s highly likely some of these patterns are also showing up in your human relationships and keeping them from being as nourishing as they could be (uh oh!).
The good news is that when we begin to heal a troubled relationship in one area of life, the healing trickles over into other relationships and domains of life as well (love, money, career, etc.)
So let me ask you this: How is YOUR relationship with food and your body? Could it use some detoxification? Could it do with a little more compassion, curiosity, mutual respect, and pleasure?
Here are some indications that your relationship with food and/or your body is on the rocks:
- You are food are like “frenemies” – alternating between being constant companions and arch rivals
- You’ve been living in a self-imposed prison of food rules and restrictions
- You experience uncontrollable urges to overeat “bad” foods
- You’ve been unable to achieve lasting weight loss, losing and finding the same 10-20-30 lbs. over and over
- You avoid mirrors and often can’t stand to be in your own skin
- You’ve tried everything to fix this problem, you are tired of betraying yourself with broken promises, and you are FED UP with depriving yourself!
- You are ready to reclaim your permission, make food your BFF and sink your teeth into a wider LIFE!
Wouldn’t you like to have a relationship with food that offers you deep and lasting nourishment, freedom of expression, fuel for your life purpose, and pleasure? Would you like to rekindle the love between you and relax into an alliance of mutual respect and support? Are you ready for a full-body exhale around all the rules and restrictions?As I said before, this is your longest term relationship on Earth. Doesn’t it deserve a little more loving care and attention?
What qualities would you LIKE to cultivate and experience in your relationship with food? Leave a comment below and let me know!
Sooooo true! Thanks for posting!