Naturally we got right to work on body image, and quickly discovered that this whole thing was not about her body at all. (Shocker!)See, in most cases, this whole obsession with food and body is a smokescreen. It’s a handy distraction to pull our attention away from what we are truly hungry for.And what I’ve discovered in my private work with dozens of women (self included) is that we pretty much hunger for the same 3 things:
Love. Connection. Purpose.
It may come in different shapes and sizes for each of us, but it distills down to these core desires.
We yearn for these things, yet at some level we don’t feel worthy of receiving them. And if we do get a taste we often quickly push them away (my post-speech meltdown case in point, as is the fact that almost 99% of people who lose weight on a diet gain it back). And we may assume we need to seek these things outside of ourselves, but nothing is further from the truth.
In Diane’s case, she longed for a loving relationship. And yet she had made her ability to experience that conditional on changing her body. Her body was rebelling, literally! I knew we had to find a new lens for her to view herself through, both so she could find relief from her self-abuse around her body AND be able to attract a relationship that would truly honor her.
So we started with a perspective shift. I gave her a powerful exercise to adjust her focus and see herself through new eyes. It wasn’t long before things started to shift, both physically and internally.
Dear [God, Spirit, Goddess, Life, Universe, etc.], please heal my vision and show me myself through your eyes.
Write it out by hand, 30 times in a row, twice a day for 3 days or until you feel a shift. But write it by hand, over and over, and watch what happens inside of you.As you focus on the words and the subtle movement of pen to paper, from the in-between spaces new insights start to come through. A doorway is opened for your soul to speak to you with the gentle voice of truth. Your true source of power and value re-emerges. Your next steps are revealed to you. You receive nourishment. You experience Grace.